I tried getting new hobbies, making new friends, traveling etc. None worked. What do you suggest?
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I dont want to be discouraging, but you have tangled with a monster. Porn can be tougher to kick than heroin or cocaine. You are addicted to your own brain chemicals, the “pleasure chemicals” that are released when you look at porn. You have established very strong neural pathways in your brain that are almost impossible to reroute. Overcoming porn will take a very concerted effort over a long period of time with a lot of help. I recommend a book called Don’t Call It Love by Patrick Carnes. He is the top expert in this area. It will help you understand what you are up against. There are organizations such as Sex Addicts Anonymous. Google them, contact them. See a counselor. Join a support group. Tell your wife and ask her to help you. She might kick you out (mine did me) but you have to learn to face the music, no matter the consequences. if you are a religious person, get involved in your religion, church or whatever. There are a lot of resources out there and you will need them. Check out Celebrate Recovery at various churches all over the country. Good luck buddy. You are gonna need it.
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hmmm… take away your ability to succumb to this addiction by sort of forgoing internet use for anything other then work: This means no facebook, no random googling, and especially no porn. After a while, I think that your need to use porn will fade into the back of your mind. Good luck!
Just realize what you are doing, and that it’s wrong. You shouldn’t be looking at that regardless of your age. It’s gross. Yes, the human body is a beautiful thing, but you are looking at it lustfully, which is wrong. So just stop. Block the sites out on your computer, have someone else set a password, and your problem will be solved.
If you REALLY think about what your watching you’ll know it’s disgusting and i mean come on, what the heck, people recording themselves making love, when making love should be seen and done by only the two people who are making the love themselves. ugh, gross.
get rid of your computer. ….and ur t.v. …….and dont buy magazines. …thats the only way. u have to cut off your sources. ..
Find an alternative addiction such as gambling or drinking or drugs.
Then you would not have the time or money to get involved (if the former ) or you would be so spaced out all the time and would not be able to afford porn if either of the other two.
Another suggestion is to get involved in the porn industry as a worker, then you would begin to hate porn.
I dont want to be discouraging, but you have tangled with a monster. Porn can be tougher to kick than heroin or cocaine. You are addicted to your own brain chemicals, the “pleasure chemicals” that are released when you look at porn. You have established very strong neural pathways in your brain that are almost impossible to reroute. Overcoming porn will take a very concerted effort over a long period of time with a lot of help. I recommend a book called Don’t Call It Love by Patrick Carnes. He is the top expert in this area. It will help you understand what you are up against. There are organizations such as Sex Addicts Anonymous. Google them, contact them. See a counselor. Join a support group. Tell your wife and ask her to help you. She might kick you out (mine did me) but you have to learn to face the music, no matter the consequences. if you are a religious person, get involved in your religion, church or whatever. There are a lot of resources out there and you will need them. Check out Celebrate Recovery at various churches all over the country. Good luck buddy. You are gonna need it.
There is no such thing! It is ok to look at videos of naked woman eating poo while one of them is sucking on a goat. Then the other one says “It’s a lovely tea party.”