I recently walked in on my 11 year old son, and he was in a masturbations frenzy, i had to shake him to snap him out of the trance. There were at least two pornographic magazines next to him.
I’m afraid that he will turn into a sex addict/offender in the future.
How can I cure him? should I send him to sunday school or make him take part in competitive sports or will that aggregative his addiction even further?
PLEASE HELP!
Answer:
He’s not going to turn into a sex offender per se. Watching porn has nothing to do with sex crimes unless the nature of the porn is of a sexually criminal nature (eg. child porn etc…) Also, no, don’t send him to sunday school BECAUSE he watched porn because that’ll send him the wrong message. You should talk to him about it and teach him that women are people just like him and are portrayed wrongly in pornography. Tell him that God said in the bible it is a sin to commit adultery and to look at a woman sinfully is adultery in the heart. Then take the magazines away. Now afterwards, you should get him to play a sport since the social nature of it will help him to not think of pornographic things when he’s all alone in his room. Also you should send him to Sunday school to learn the teachings of God and if he asks if it was because of the pornography tell him no and say that God would like to teach you and speak with you about Jesus and salvation.
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Tell him every time he masturbates god kills a kitten. Tell him every time he masturbates it gets smaller and he will have trouble pleasing any girl in the future.
Awe he must be your first son. Let him go. It’s natural
whenever he masturbates rub his nose in it.
that should teach him
Bring him to church, send him to Sunday School, Get him interested in another “Sport” all together. At least he was looking at women and not farm animals or other kinky stuff. Does his father have those magazines lying around the house? Tell him to lock them away.
He’s not going to turn into a sex offender per se. Watching porn has nothing to do with sex crimes unless the nature of the porn is of a sexually criminal nature (eg. child porn etc…) Also, no, don’t send him to sunday school BECAUSE he watched porn because that’ll send him the wrong message. You should talk to him about it and teach him that women are people just like him and are portrayed wrongly in pornography. Tell him that God said in the bible it is a sin to commit adultery and to look at a woman sinfully is adultery in the heart. Then take the magazines away. Now afterwards, you should get him to play a sport since the social nature of it will help him to not think of pornographic things when he’s all alone in his room. Also you should send him to Sunday school to learn the teachings of God and if he asks if it was because of the pornography tell him no and say that God would like to teach you and speak with you about Jesus and salvation.
11?!?!?!
He should still think girls have coodies!
quit making so much dang noise when dads banging u in the next room! jesus u sound like hes killing u in there ,u r a real screamer all night long its ewwwwww ohhhhhh ahhhhhhh harder daddy give it to me!more more more oh godddddd yes !!!!
At 11 Find where he getting the porn. In our state you must be 18/ 21 the get it . Someone is breaking the law. Now that said let it go . You could tell him to lock the door next time.
I think a more important question is how did your 11 year old get porn?
it doesnt mean he will be a sex offender! my lil bro lost his virginity at that age so be sure he knows about safe sex. dont worry about the masturbation at least its not sex yet!
try to talk to him about what he is doing and try to talk to him as a friend not a mom or father a friend is the way to go and tell him its good to do that but not all the time once a week is good and to make sure he keeps his door lock and clean up after himself. and try to put his mind in another place beside that let him talk to you why he is acting that way my mom did the same to me. and she told me the same thing im telling you, try to get him in riding bikes and sports or go on long rides in the car and or take him to the movies or a park try something that would take his mind off what he was doing i wish you luck and if you need to talk IM me when u need to chat
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Brother/sister may ALLAH guide you and show you the right path and give you the strength and courage to fight the evil.
brother/sister my sympathies are with you.being a muslim it pains me much to know that even an 11 year old child can be addicted to porn.
a child who can become pilot,engineer,doctor scientist, is unfortunately troubled by evil at this tender age.
May Allah(almighty) cure your son and protect his eyes from doing sin and also protect his private parts from the devil who wants every thing to become evil.there are some steps that if you follow i am hopefull that Allah will help you and your son.
1-please you should avoid watching all types of pornography in front and even in abscense of your son.
2-you should avoid bad words and slangs.
3-you should advise and even somtimes force in a loving manner your children,sons and daughters and wife or husband to dress modestly.
4-give your son hugs occasionally and ask him with deep love that “you can share any problems with me i will help you”.
5-you should tell your wife/husband that i am your partner and i don’t want to see you with anyother girl-friend/boy-friend.
6-create an atmosphere of love and friendship in your home and go for outing with your family on weekends not on crowdy places but on rivers,lakes,mountains etc
7-Allah(God almighty) has given sexual energies to humans for very higher purposes i.e to enjoy the bounties bestowed by their lord and the should only be utilised in marriage.
there’s a secret to tell you that you should marry your son as soon as he gets 20 or so and arrange for him a good,loving and pious wife
brother/sister i also welcome you to study the religion islam
and decide yourself which is better for you.
you can install software like NetDog Porn Filter : http://www.netdogsoft.com on your son’s computer, it blocks all porn quitely and automatically when your son’s on the internet.
Umm theirs no “curing” people you nazi. Its normal for someone his age hes finding his nuts. Lmao make him go to sunday school? And have them tell him his dick will fall off if he jerks it, best route is to let nature take its course ande he needs a proper education on sex.
Thats the age I started watching porn too!!! am now 22, and forget about being a sex offender, am still a virgin!
Your son will not become a sex offender. Thats him growing up right now, learning more about life. Am not telling you to let him go, but explain to him those things so that he can judge what’s good and what’s bad…
You just remind me of my time as an 11 yr old kid. I still remember a classmate would bring a pornographic magazine at school and then every boy in the class would just rush to see it. We just had to get a glimpse of it at least!! That was just magical moments… every boy did like it…
HI sir/ma’am, hmm, i dunno how COULD I help your son, but the best way is to pray for him.Another fact, if you’re asking if it destroy one’s life?
Probably and surely YES! they destroy the life of people PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY and of course, SPIRITUALLY.
Why?
Simple. Because it is a sin. A sin because they create sexual lusts that Satan or evil uses to get the desire of people. It’s one of the instrument of Satan to make the people who watch porn away from God.
Desires of men are really powerful. They even pay for those sites just to get and fulfill their desires.Yes, for them, it fun, its entertaining, it’s a pleasure. But they do not know that its a big sin, that makes people away from God. Sexual lusts, Lust of eyes, lust of flesh is very dangerous and a big sin of course.
We should not watch these kind of videos, or even pictures because its not good of course..
The appetites of the world and the flesh are powerful and addictive tools of the devil. He appeals to our love for what satisfies our selfish and sinful desires and uses it to tempt, control, discourage, defeat, and destroy us. We crave power or money or food or alcohol or clothes or sex, even though we are in danger of sacrificing our friends, our loved ones, and even our relationship with our Savior to satisfy our desires.
How can we resist the temptations of Satan? Paul said, “Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lsut of the flesh”. He also wrote, ” Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lust of the flesh”
Put on the Lord and walk in the Spirit!
God provides the armor to withstand temtation, but we must put it on.
So, at least now, you have the idea how. Well, just ask our Lord and seek help, nothing is impossible with him! I too, maybe became an addict about that thing, but the time came that i realized that it is wrong.. Yes, i know that it is wrong but i keep on doing. It’s just that God called me and gave a second chance to repent on that..
Just be whole in praying with all your heart. ^^ ., God bless you and your son.
he does not have a porn addiction, masturbating is normal. if he doesnt masturbate at a young age, hes gonna end up an old perverted guy raping little girls. MASTURBATION IS NOT A SIN!
Um, he’s 11 and just finding out this kind of stuff.
I highly doubt he has an addiction.
What he did was completely NORMAL for an 11 year old boy.